I read your articles all the time and I have a question. You say that marriages benefit from conversing about sex, but what if your partner discredits your opinion. My partner has an anal fetish. And, because I love him, I tried it because he asked me to.

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Anal isn't for everyone. No matter how keen you are or how hard you coax, your wife may never be into it. So don't set your sights too high.